5 Tips to Help Disappointed Kids
I don't like having my kids sad or disappointed, just like you. But psychologically this is an OPPORTUNITY to build confidence and resilience in children. We might as well seize it! Here are some tips from a variety of sources to help kids suffering from disappointment:
- Allow your children to feel disappointment about the setback; Don't "spin" the situation to make your children feel better;
- Support your children, but don't give them a consolation prize;
- Keep the regular rhythm of the day. This will give the children a sense that no matter what is swirling around them, life moves forward and they are safe.
- Be especially mindful of your own inner experiences and how they may have an impact on your child.
- Be gentle with each other as parents and adults. Set the example.
Helpful video and sources
Sources: Video, Good Morning America and message from our head of school, Julie Amberg
Articles: https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/the-power-prime/201106/parenting-disappointment-is-good, http://www.cubsstudy.com/2015/04/how-to-help-our-kids-to-build-his.html,
http://www.parents.com/toddlers-preschoolers/development/social/helping-kids-deal-with-disappointment/, http://www.parents.com/kids/development/behavioral/failure-is-an-option/